What if you date someone who is always so down in the dumps that you can’t pull them out of it? It would not be worth your time and breathe to still try to date this particular person because that kind of energy can rub off on you and it would be best to part as friends.

It would be difficult to do because in the beginning, you may not see it because first impression are the foundation of what helps a person to decide whether they want to continue to see that person. You start to see a change in that person after such a time passes; you have dated the “poor me” person. This person wants someone else to feel some kind of sympathy for them in order to feel that closeness that they may have missed growing up.

It will hardly ever be “me against the world” type of mentality. They are so down because of things around them that they cannot change and do not know how to get out of this blue funk. You are now considered to be that backbone for them until he or she finds someone else that catches their attention. This is when you have to realize what type of person he or she will be to you in your life. A season, a reason, or a lifetime. You tend to look at a person who is a season to be a lifetime and once this “season” is in your life in your mind as your lifetime, your real lifetime will pass you by. The season who is always down will change your world tremendously by becoming dependant on you for emotional support and you will be there and then you will have nothing left for yourself.

You find yourself drained from continuing to tell your season/lifetime how things will get better and with you sticking by him or her, you tend to resent him or her but still have a continuous love for them because you have gotten to the point where you do not want to see this person hurt. They will cling more to you in order to feel also protected from whatever is hurting them or the fear of being hurt. You want to not have to burn bridges when there may come a time where you will need this person as well. You will have to meditate on whether this person is your season, reason or lifetime. And when you realize that the season you thought was your lifetime is not your lifetime, you have to make yourself understand your own words.