Dating is a situation where two people meet at an agreed place to have fun. You can take in a movie or go out to eat. Whatever your desired place is, that’s where you two can decide to go. Upon meeting this person you prepare to look your best. Once there at the meeting place, if you are the first to arrive, observe where you are before going any further. If you are a few minutes late and you don’t know what your date looks like but, describes what he or she is wearing, you can make a decision to turn around or continue with the date.

Take a deep breath, walk in and sit down with a smile. Get to know the person as much as you possibly can for the time spent on the date. You have already exchanged phone numbers so you do not have to worry about whether he or she will call you. If in fact you drove your own vehicle or taken public transportation, your date doesn’t have to drive you home. Neither insist that he or she does. But what if the person you just spent a wonderful evening with starts checking up on you, and you didn’t even give him or her directions to your home? Stalker potential. The person has become obsessed with you overnight and you don’t even known it.

At what point do you realize that the person is a stalker or has stalker tendencies? There is no real time to tell if he or she is. If you have good neighbors who stay up at night, are considered a bit nosey, they will be the first to tell you that someone has been sneaking around your yard at night. You begin to pay close attention to sounds at night. The best way to become much safer is to purchase security lights and an alarm system. It is always good if the neighbor you live in has a “neighborhood watch” group.

When you are told that this person has been snooping around on the premises, and calls at a later time, be cordial to the person, not letting on that you know that this person has been coming to your home unannounced. Contact the authorities and explain what has been going on. In most cases, the person that likes you could not be a stalker and just really wants to get to know you but, it is not necessary to hide in the bushes if you want to get to know someone. Some people have a generous heart and feel bad for contacting the authorities but, it has to be done.

No one should jeopardize your sleeping patterns over a simple date that may not ever happen again. There is no way of knowing what a person is like until you get to know him or her. As mentioned, never give out your personal information. When going home from the date, make sure that you are not being followed. You are safer by taking public transportation if you have it close in your area. The information still can be found if the person has access to a computer. All that is needed is a name and age. Each date can be very thought provoking but, if you want to have fun, don’t spend too much time thinking about if the person is a potential stalker. He or she could look like anyone.