First impressions are everything when it comes to dating but how much of the conversation are you willing to believe in? Half of the population of American who do have the opportunity to date will say that 20 percent of Americans trust in the word of their date. For this reason, maybe because the date had a rough time in the last relationship and really don’t want to open up as much until he or she sees that the person in which they are dating are really being truthful.

This person may or may not be the best to date. It is up to the person to decide whether he or she wants to date this particular person. If you find that this person is unusually quiet, take a second look at what his or her circumstances are. There is a possibility that something was wrong on the job, or family problems and he or she probably thought that getting out was a good idea.

Don’t take everything a person says at face value because some of the information you receive may not be true. But in order to find out if the person is trustworthy, he or she will not tell you that he or she loves you two months into the two of you dating. That is a sure sign that what is being said you must take it with a grain of salt. If you find yourself liking him or her, take a second thought about what you are getting yourself into.

Enjoy your time with this person and watch out for signs regarding the trust factor. If he or she claims that he or she is working late, this usually means that he or she is interested in someone else or seeing someone else if he or she hasn’t come right out and say that he or she are dating other people. Make it clear and plain that you are just dating with the huge factor that dating means meeting up to see if you are compatible with one another. Don’t take things to heart until you are dating after a year and even then, leave the trust up in the air where it belongs.

What if you date someone who is always so down in the dumps that you can’t pull them out of it? It would not be worth your time and breathe to still try to date this particular person because that kind of energy can rub off on you and it would be best to part as friends.

It would be difficult to do because in the beginning, you may not see it because first impression are the foundation of what helps a person to decide whether they want to continue to see that person. You start to see a change in that person after such a time passes; you have dated the “poor me” person. This person wants someone else to feel some kind of sympathy for them in order to feel that closeness that they may have missed growing up.

It will hardly ever be “me against the world” type of mentality. They are so down because of things around them that they cannot change and do not know how to get out of this blue funk. You are now considered to be that backbone for them until he or she finds someone else that catches their attention. This is when you have to realize what type of person he or she will be to you in your life. A season, a reason, or a lifetime. You tend to look at a person who is a season to be a lifetime and once this “season” is in your life in your mind as your lifetime, your real lifetime will pass you by. The season who is always down will change your world tremendously by becoming dependant on you for emotional support and you will be there and then you will have nothing left for yourself.

You find yourself drained from continuing to tell your season/lifetime how things will get better and with you sticking by him or her, you tend to resent him or her but still have a continuous love for them because you have gotten to the point where you do not want to see this person hurt. They will cling more to you in order to feel also protected from whatever is hurting them or the fear of being hurt. You want to not have to burn bridges when there may come a time where you will need this person as well. You will have to meditate on whether this person is your season, reason or lifetime. And when you realize that the season you thought was your lifetime is not your lifetime, you have to make yourself understand your own words.

This is your time to shine. You have the be the brightest star in your date’s eyes. You do not have to do too much to get their attention--just be yourself. Each year or two a person goes through the lows of a breakup and at times it is difficult to date, but if you find yourself in a position to love yourself first within the first few months of each new year, you’ll find that you will attract positive people in your life.

If you have had bad luck in finding a date think on the positives in your life and bring them out of you to show outwardly and through that people will see the enter beauty that you do have. Work on your negatives to turn them into positives. You can still date in the process of working on your negatives. Yoga helps in this instants; this guides you to having a well rounded mind and look at yourself and realizing that you are not perfect and no one is.

If you have more negatives than positives, build more on your Yoga classes or take an anger management class. The best type of love is loving yourself. It is much getting used to but each morning that you wake up breathe and look and yourself in the mirror and say, “I love everything about me.” Because the day will be about the things that you do and the things you are capable of accomplishing for that day; it’s not just about you. Because when a person sees that in you, they will get the understanding that you are not all about yourself and that they may have room in your life for them. So pushing out the poisons in your life whether it be ex loves and bad relationships will get you started in the direction of new beginnings, especially on dates.

You act like you are on top of the world but in reality something is wrong with that picture. You could be lonely, no husband or wife or not even have children. It truly is okay that you don’t have these things. As long as you can go out and enjoy what life has to offer you in a good way. You do not have to sit around the house and be sad all the time. You can be sad for a while, but move on. Misery loves company and you have to know how to get rid of misery when it has stayed too long.

If you feel like you can’t get a date, look in the mirror and find out what it is you need to change about yourself. You may feel like you do not need to change anything about yourself. Ask yourself, when was the last time you went out on a date? Do you know the reason why another date didn’t happen? If you know the answers to these questions then it’s time to start with YOU. You do not need an expensive expert to give you a make over. You can go out and pick out the right outfits that suits your body type and makeup that works with your complexion.

You do however may have to take a course in table manners or etiquette. Find a good friend who knows the rules in dating and what questions to ask and not to ask. Know within yourself that you have total control over the situation and when a date doesn’t go well, don’t lose control. Just be happy that you went out on a date and move on to the next one. I can’t stress it enough--just enjoy your time while you have it.

The date you have may feel a bit intimidated if you are a well rounded, exciting and well known person in your community. Not showing off too much will have the person you date enjoy your company and you are able to enjoy a night on the town.

So you have a good looking man or woman on your arm when you go out. You cannot get mad or jealous over someone who looks at who you’re with. In all reality, you should be pleased at the fact that you do have a good looking person on your arm. That shows that this person chose you to go out with them. Don’t get all angry and mad because someone spoke to whom you are with. Smile and sit back. Don’t ask questions because if this is your first date with them, this is not your place to ask. That person will tell you if he or she feels the need to.

You know that this is your time with this person and all their attention should be on you. Don’t make a scene as if the attention should be on you. That would seem childish on your part and you will not be asked out again. You cannot let every little thing get to you while you are out on this date. A date is a time to enjoy yourself. If you are riding wit the person do not complain about how the person is driving. Make conversation wit the person to get your mind off of his or her driving habits.

If you go out to eat, if the food is not to your liking, tell the waiter or waitress what you do not like about it but be cordial at all cost. Also have some decent table manners. Don’t put your elbows on the table while you eat, do not slurp your food, and bring the food to your mouth; not mouth to food. If you date pays any attention to how you are eating don’t ask, “What are you looking at?” Have some dignity about yourself.

Your date should also not provoke you to get angry unless you are just the type of person who gets angry with every little word spoke to you. Save the drama for another time. If the date is not feeling you or the other way around, you should say so and part ways before continuing with that date. Since you are together for that evening, make the best of it and say your good nights after the date ends.

When you are on a date you want to received the best time out of the date. You want to at least have the same things in common to see if you mesh well and also see if you would like to see that person again. Treat a date like you were going grocery shopping.

For those of you who go grocery shopping, you make sure what you receive or picked is fresh and desirable enough to take home. You stroll down the isle looking for the perfect product and study it until you feel this is the product you really want. On a date you observe the date that you are on and you never go over the time of the date or you will become tired or bored wit the date. Coffee is different because having coffee together should only last 15 to 30 minutes.

Lunch, especially on a job should last 30 minutes to an hour. That is lunch during the time you are working. No job will give you a lunch break no longer than that. Lunch basically is a time where you can really get the information needed to decide whether you want to go out with this person. Go down the grocery isle again and compare lunch to your date. What lunch meat do your normally crave if your date reminds you of it. If you are not too crazy about lunch meat then move on to the next thing that you would consider lunch.

If you missed breakfast and breakfast is the most important meal of the day you can have brunch with your significant date of your choice. This also has a time limit. No time is really a good time so make the best of that time with that person. What would you eat at brunch that is to your liking with the date that you are having? Whatever it is, make it exciting and fulfilling. This way, the brunch ca n hold you over until dinner time.

For those of you who are on a diet you will have to watch what you eat. Same goes with who you take out on a date. Watch who you desire to be with on a diet. Some things may be good for you or some things may be bad for you. What looks good is not always good for you. So choose wisely when you back away from seeing what is good. Diner is the best conversation time because you are both talking about what has gone on throughout the day. You may find what he or she has to say quite interesting. Just as long as you don’t get caught up in the conversation and forget what time it is. Don’t let time run out on you or the date will just spoil your evening.

It is always good to listen to your date when trying to make a good impression especially if you are meeting in a club. A man will see a beautiful woman and send her a drink and introduce himself as saying things like, “You must have had a rough day because you are sitting here alone non approachable. “ Or asking questions when the lady clearly has stated that she doesn’t desire to be bothered.

She may have on a pair of what looks like reading glasses with no book, hair pinned in an up do looking like a teacher and dressed as if she is not out to impressed anyone. Then you sit and carry on a conversation totally different from the last man and speak in a way to catch her attention without asking questions but, studying her actions and mannerisms. Then politely give your name and excuse yourself. First dates will consist of space if you decide to go some place in which will require space.

When something catches her eye you then say a small bit to invite her into your space. This way after the date you can easily have something to talk about. Pay attention to what she says. Focus on what she says and not what she says it with. Don’t let your eye wonder to her mouth or below the neckline because if this does, your mind will wonder what her kisses will be like. At the end of the night, the kiss will tell it all.

The kiss will indicate if you will be in her life as a friend or if you will be in her life as her future. If she fidgets with her keys at the door, she is waiting for you to kiss her. If she quickly puts the keys in the door and says good night, you have just made a bad impression with her on the date. Never go 100 percent; you give your 90 percent and let her go the other 10 percent. Finding the right one does not take lies, it takes some what of an embellishment of self to get passed the first night. After that you are on your own once you have been guided what to do.

You find the perfect date for you and this perfect date really turns out to be another disaster because the date orders everything for you. This my be the second sign or third sign to let you know how controlling this person can be. The first initial meeting, you will not be able to tell how controlling he or she is because they hide that part of themselves until they get to know you better. Control issues stems back to childhood when a parent may constantly tell him or her to do something the child doesn’t want to do. As the child becomes older is caries over into adulthood.

If the date did not ask you what you want to order and assumes that this is what you like this is one sign of being in control. Or it can just possibly be mean that the person who is going to pay may not have enough money to get what you really want to eat. That is why it is always good to have your own money on a date. You can be polite and say that you do not want what the person has ordered for you, that you want what you like on the menu, and then reassure your date that you have your own. Be polite about it and not snobbishly and look into his or her eyes when saying it to read his or hers eyes because some dates may get the impression that since you do this that you may just have money all the time and they will try to get a date with you the next time.

You may never compromise on what movie to go see because your date may like certain type of movies and you really will not enjoy yourself on a date if you are not willing to see what this other person wants to see. And if you decide to see the movie with him or her suggest that the movie you desire to see they come back and see that one as well. But if your date says no, then cancel the date or politely ask for a rain check. This is usually done over the phone.

Doing fun this will also be difficult to achieve if the person doesn’t want to do anything fun like skating or strolling through the park. There comes a time in every person’s life when enough is enough and you have to come to your senses and think this person is never going to change and you can not change him or her. It can be also about status. If the person you are dating makes more money than you, there will be a slight control issue and the subject will continually be brought up to make you feel less that you are and you know you deserve better than that. Then you do have those with money who like to share their wealth who are not controlling.

Everything has to be right in their perfect little world and if you are not a part of the equation, you must move on. There are better things to do with your time.

You are being taken out several times with whom you think is a perfect gentleman and then the tables turn on you. He doesn’t tell you how beautiful you are, send you flowers, take you for granted, while he is out doing what he wants to do and expects you to be waiting on you when he gets home. There are times when you have to put your foot down letting him (or her) know that you have your own thing and you will not hold on much longer.

It’s strange how things can turn around to the point where after dating , people become too comfortable in their own skin and avoid the responsibility of being in a relationship. How you attracted that person should be used to also keep the person you are seeing. And within the relationship, make it exciting enough to keep the fires burning. Soon if you don’t keep doing what you were doing at first that person you were with show you they don’t need you. They will start to think you were a winner then later become a loser.

The person will soon become dead weight to you because you start feeding lines to the one who thought was the perfect person for you. Then you sit and ponder that you really messed up somewhere and you try to figure out where you went wrong. It probably will never come to you. Staying out late night, coming in early in the morning, and making excuses to money spent somewhere else. With these excuses your loved one will get sick and tired of the loose rap. Then when you are out together, you begin to get jealous because your mate is getting attention that you were not giving to him or her. You have to come better than that.

The best thing is to take it back to where you begin with that person and try not to make it look like you are trying so hard with it. Start with a simple dinner at home and candlelight. It will be a start and take it one day at a time; and if in all reality, the person who has your heart will forget that you once messed up. Maybe you’ll be able to clean up your act.

You have just been fixed up on a blind date and your friend has spoken highly of you to your blind date and vice versa. Friends continue to talk until the two of you meet. This back and forth ping pong conversation goes on for quite some time until you two decide to meet each other. The friend set up the meeting because numbers were not given out. Of course, this is a blind date.

You meet at the designated place hoping to find the man or woman of your dreams. Both of you are on time for the date and give each other a polite greeting. This man seems to be a perfect gentleman because he has pulled out the chair for you. First impressions can sometimes be false but, play along if you will because the evening has started out perfectly for you. The young lady gives you decent eye contact and you feel comfortable with the fact that she is doing this. This technique shows that she is paying attention to you.

Everything your friend has said about the blind date is true so far but, you never mention to your date what your friend has said about them. The evening was a blast and you go home to tell you friend how the date went. In your mind, do you think there would be a second or third date? Depending on how well the other person felt after the date. How much more should the friend stay involved after the first initial date? If the date goes well, your friend has done their part in setting you up on a blind date. It is entirely up to you and your blind date whether you should continue.

If your friend continues to ask questions on what you are going to do if the date goes as planned, tell them thank you for being a friend and you appreciate them trying to set you up on dates but, you feel that you can handle the situation at this point and that there could be a possible double date. Too much talk will get your friend involved and a friend should not be involved all the time.

You work hard all day at the office and then have to come home and clean house. You deserve the best life has to offer but, there is no one around to share the special moments with you. So on the weekends you do not have to work, you get all dolled up and go out. First thing, you must decide what to wear and then decide where to go. Where the girls and boys are. (men and women). The perfect place and the perfect time. You didn’t know about this but, you have just been invited to a gala event by a friend. Men and women always have friends to associate with.

The time has come to attend this special event. You get there late. Not intentional. You want to look your best. You walk in and every heard turn. It is a great feeling when you are the center of attention. After your nerves calm down, you mingle a bit with others and your friends. As the night prolongs you feel that coming out could have been a waste of time. As you are about to leave you are approach by the most popular person there. This person is the one who throws the event. As always it will be a friend of a friend who has given out your address.

You like the conversation between the two of you but you can’t stay long because you have to work in the morning. This person has taken a liking to you so he or she gives you their card to call. You go home starry eyed thinking about the person you just met and your day at work goes well. Do not be in a rush to call him or her because this will make you look like you are anxious. Wait at least three days before calling and ask if this person would like to go for coffee. Tea if they do not drink coffee. Discussing life over coffee is a beautiful thing. Schedule yourself for coffee if there is no time during the morning hours or day to get together.

This may lead to something big if you both have something in common. It is very important to see what each has to say about certain topics. The beauty of a date is the way a person smiles when thy see you and how much they enjoy your company when they are around. Not every situation works out that way; not every prince charming will cross your path but you will be able to not feel so lonely at night.

Each week you go out on dates to find that special someone and it seems that each one of those dates ended disastrous. You start think, “Well what’s wrong with me?” There is nothing wrong with you. You may be attracting those in which you see yourself in their eyes. When you figure out what it is in why you are attracting this type of people, you may need to change the way you dress, smile, walk or speech.

When you know you have had a bad date, what do you do when you close the door to your apartment or home? Do you take a deep breath, lean against the door for a few seconds and then move around or have you ever just screamed because you are tired of running into the same type every time you go out? If you haven’t done the latter, it is time to do that depending on how many dates you have in a week or month and neither one turns out the way you expect it to.

Sit down and evaluate what you could do differently in order to attract that person you have your eye on. Even if you don’t have your eye one anyone just carrying yourself in a certain way attract someone. First step is to dress according to your best assets but, don’t overdue it. For those who have nice legs, where a skirt that will show them. Be lady like with he skirt though; do not have the skirt too short. You desire to leave a little bit of an imagination. If your hips are your best asset, wear jeans the fit and are comfortable not tight fitting jeans.

If you feel that your top part is your best assets, wear something sensual not so revealing that men are just focused on that only. Men are different when if comes to attracting the opposite sex. You know that you cannot walk around all the time with your shirt off. Wear a shirt and pants that compliments you, your skin tone and your body type. Men have it easy because they do not require much work. A shower, shave and colon is all that it takes for a man to look his best. Not to mention clean teeth.

Sooner or later you will find that one person you have attracted, date like you really want to and then you can really scream louder. In the meantime, enjoy time with yourself and have fun.

For once on your life take a walk to see how many people you can meet and observe what kind of reaction you get from them. No matter what time of the day, month or season it is, you can always find someone who is interested enough in you to go out on a date. Don’t just hand out your number to a total stranger. Walk down the street with a smile on your face as if nothing is bothering you. When you smile others smile with you.

Nine times out of ten you’ll hear people say that they most attractive thing on a person is their smile. Smiling can brighten up anyone’s day. Walk as if you are going to the candy store purchasing your favorite candy. Along the way, someone may notice your smile and stop to ask you why are you smiling? This is a good way to break the ice with someone whom you may end up with on a date. Stand there and have a decent conversation, do not exchange numbers, just agree to meet and the same place and go from there. Then, you can exchange numbers when the two of you meet up again.

Set up date nights, make flyers and pass them out. This will be another opportunity to participate in finding the perfect one for you at the event. Events like this can last as long as you desire it to be because you are the one in control of the party. Make the time early enough to end at a time where the people will not tire themselves out. That should give the people enough time to get around to everyone in the room. A smile on your face does go a very long way. People remember smiling faces.

Go to the park--jog or sit on the bench feeding the birds. Continue to smile as people walk by. It is also good to get fresh air. Fresh air clear your head from being inside all day and there is a need for getting out. People enjoying the night life and at some point that has to end unless you are a celebrity and it is granted that you have to be out just to be seen.

Get on the basketball court. People love to stop by and watch the guys play basketball even if they are not familiar with the game. There might even be a single man out on the court who has caught your eye. That would be a wonderful feeling if he caught you looking his way. He might just walk over to you and say hello. Still. . .continue to smile.

Have a block party and tell your friends to invite their friends. Out of each friend’s friend, there is a guy or a girl waiting in the wings just to be seen. Plenty of food and drinks to go around and keep the party interesting. You can also have a meet and greet for those who do not know each other. It will be up to them to make that first move in getting to know one another. Remember to smile.

Of all the times to fall in love this would be the time to do it only if you go out to every place possible and be seen by the person you desire to attract. Granted it is not as simple as it sounds because during the holidays, people tend to concentrate on purchasing gifts for their loved ones (i.e. children, spouses, other relatives) but think of those who do not have any one to share that special time with. Many holiday seasons have gone by and no one knows of a person who doesn’t have anyone to share their lives with.

Single and still dating? Enjoy doing that because you have the freedom to pick and choose. You don’t have to tie yourself down to one person if you are not ready to find that one true love. This season is the most exciting time because if you plan on going to an office Christmas party, there are rules and regulations to how to carry yourself at a Christmas party. Not to say that you have to be a wall flower or stiff, just control your alcohol intake because office people will talk and you’ll never live it down.

This is the time where the person in the office who has had their eye on you can now approach you and ask you out on a date. There is laughter and mistletoe. The person who is interested in you will do his or her best to get you under the mistletoe to steal a kiss. And maybe the kiss will lead to a starting date and many more dates. This maybe be the person takes your breath away and you probably had your eye on him or her too. This is the time where you can have your most fun and not take everything so serious but, remembering the real meaning of the holidays.

For those who are not feeling the dating scene quite yet, the season will come as a depressing time for you. Do your best not to let it get that way by renting movies and if you have very good friends, have a little gathering at your place on certain nights before the holidays or even on that day. Make sure that you will have enough entertainment to keep the festivities enjoyable. If you have no time for parties, your work will become the most important thing. If your job gives you time off for the holidays, plan on going out of town to keep from feeling so alone. If not to your families home go some place you have never been before. Ahhhh! New faces.

In several cities some people organize a night for speed dating. That’s when singles get together and have a limited time to get to know each other and see which one is compatible and will be matched. You really can meet a lot of people with a dating scene like that. Whatever you flavor is for the holidays just make it fun and safe because there is always next year.

If you have a tick on you get it off your back because that is the most irritating thing to have when you are trying to do other things. When it comes to finding that right person who can fit into your daily routine then you nay have something to gain. For that special someone that you just met and really don’t know how to tell them how good they are, you really haven’t gotten to know them that well yet.

Your habits can be better than or worse than their habits. It is not so much that you have to know where they are going every other night; that will be wanting too much control. You will quickly get on their nerves because of asking too many questions. Show them in a more gentler way how you feel without scaring them away. During the dating process find out as much as you possibly can about them without being too obvious. There may be a second date.

The person is an important person in the community and he or she has taken you out or invited you to dinner. This is the most exciting thing that can ever happen to a person. You were just minding your on business, plus being in the right place at the right time. They may be into themselves. People like that are usually hard to reach, but still have hearts and desire love too. They feel they would rather have someone in their lives equal to what they have accomplished.

Continuing to be number one on their own list and they desire to have the same as friends. Granted, they are interesting to be around and for you to be a part of that is a great thing even if it only last for a little while. Some can be dangerous but you’ll never know unless they trust enough to get involved. They are as sweet as they desire to be and will go all out for you.

Enjoy the time well spent and in passing if things do not work out, there are always special occasions you can remind him or her of.

Dating is a situation where two people meet at an agreed place to have fun. You can take in a movie or go out to eat. Whatever your desired place is, that’s where you two can decide to go. Upon meeting this person you prepare to look your best. Once there at the meeting place, if you are the first to arrive, observe where you are before going any further. If you are a few minutes late and you don’t know what your date looks like but, describes what he or she is wearing, you can make a decision to turn around or continue with the date.

Take a deep breath, walk in and sit down with a smile. Get to know the person as much as you possibly can for the time spent on the date. You have already exchanged phone numbers so you do not have to worry about whether he or she will call you. If in fact you drove your own vehicle or taken public transportation, your date doesn’t have to drive you home. Neither insist that he or she does. But what if the person you just spent a wonderful evening with starts checking up on you, and you didn’t even give him or her directions to your home? Stalker potential. The person has become obsessed with you overnight and you don’t even known it.

At what point do you realize that the person is a stalker or has stalker tendencies? There is no real time to tell if he or she is. If you have good neighbors who stay up at night, are considered a bit nosey, they will be the first to tell you that someone has been sneaking around your yard at night. You begin to pay close attention to sounds at night. The best way to become much safer is to purchase security lights and an alarm system. It is always good if the neighbor you live in has a “neighborhood watch” group.

When you are told that this person has been snooping around on the premises, and calls at a later time, be cordial to the person, not letting on that you know that this person has been coming to your home unannounced. Contact the authorities and explain what has been going on. In most cases, the person that likes you could not be a stalker and just really wants to get to know you but, it is not necessary to hide in the bushes if you want to get to know someone. Some people have a generous heart and feel bad for contacting the authorities but, it has to be done.

No one should jeopardize your sleeping patterns over a simple date that may not ever happen again. There is no way of knowing what a person is like until you get to know him or her. As mentioned, never give out your personal information. When going home from the date, make sure that you are not being followed. You are safer by taking public transportation if you have it close in your area. The information still can be found if the person has access to a computer. All that is needed is a name and age. Each date can be very thought provoking but, if you want to have fun, don’t spend too much time thinking about if the person is a potential stalker. He or she could look like anyone.

Like an obsession, you want to be around this person all the time. The first meeting, this person found you, but you become so overwhelmed that this person chose to talk to you that you just don’t know how to act. Okay, so you make it home from an evening out and the person is perfect in every way imaginable. Meaning there was no conversation of a night cap, a kiss good night, or lingering around the door trying to find the right words to say good night.

This doesn’t mean that this person wasn’t interested. It only means that this person is a respectable person until he or she gets to know you; then things may change. You have a wonderful night and feel like a child at Christmas time. You go to bed early so that gingerbread cookies dance through your head in hopes that you will see him or her again. You must be careful not to get to excited about this person. It is understandable that it makes you feel good to get into the dating game again possibly after not dating for so long.

You wonder what is it about this person that makes your soul quiver and your knees ache. It will never come to you what it is about this person that you like so much. It could be the way he or she walks, talks, smile or dresses. Don’t be fooled by imitation. Going out on dates, people dress to impress and once they get to know you, if there is a second or third date, they begin to feel more comfortable in their skin, and start going on dates dressed any kind of way with you.

The clean cut person is serious about his or her life and knows exactly what he or she wants out of life. The person is very articulate and well defined in manner. To some, even the sloppiest of dressers are super fly. In the early 70’s, super fly was intended to be for someone who dressed in the finest of clothes and spoke a certain language just to get their point across. Super fly nowadays have come up. Although still wearing the latest fashion the vocabulary has changed. Once you catch a super fly on your arm, you will be apt to not let that person get away.

These are the extremely fun people. They also know the latest happenings and know how to stay out of trouble because they don’t get into any. The super fly type are somewhat low key and want you around when they want you around. They take care of business when they have to, and knows when to say “no.” Two super fly people put together are a huge pair or if one is not super fly and the other is, the one that isn’t will be made into one. Any one person can be super fly in your eyes. It all depends on how you look at it. Huggie Bear, Sweet Daddy and Cleopatra Jones are the super flyers just to name a few. Someone in your space can be super fly to you.

You have met this person who makes your heart skip a beat and you feel like at times the whole world has stopped on its axis just so that you two can enjoy that moment together. Far be it that the sparks will fly and you feel like this Is the person you desire to spend the rest of your life with. Pump your breaks. . .take a look at this person again. You must first see If you two have the same ideal interests. This may be the hardest thing to come by because a few will say they like the same things you do.

Read between the lines if you can, but as mentioned before DO NOT analyze too much. The conversation goes as such:

YOU: I like going for walks on the beach

HIM: You too?! I find it to be the most relaxing thing a person can ever do when it’s a beautiful night out

Translation: Let us take a drive down to the coast so that I can get to really know you.

But the person could really like doing those things and have good intensions. If a person is into you, the feeling will be so deep that the fire that burns within their hearts cannot be contained, and they want to spend every waking moment with you. If you are the type that do not mind a little bit of pampering, then this person is for you. Some people don’t know how to take that if they are not too affectionate.

YOU: My shoulders hurt

HIM: Do you mind if I give you a massage? I’m good with my hands

YOU: No thank you I can manage

He’s thinking at this particular time that you have just crushed his ego because all he wants to do is get close to you. There is nothing wrong with that but there is a limit. So instead of a massage (not good on a first date) just cuddle. That’s the type of intimacy a few admire in a woman or a man. These are the one who know what boundaries are. Once you get to know each other and spend that quality time together, it becomes surreal that you are finishing each other’s sentences.

Anything that comes along that may make the relationship difficult to handle, you sit down with each other as adults and work things out without arguing over what someone else has said, or what was heard by someone else. That ruins a relationship when there is a confrontation and no one in the relationship doesn’t want to listen, and they want to believe what is being said about them. When you come to an understanding and agree to not let anyone hinder from dating whom you desire to date, it is the person you are dating whom you need to deal with. Because in the end you are the one having to deal with the person you are dating. When other people see you happy, they seem to always try to find a way to break up the happiness because they are not happy themselves.

A perfect combination is when two things or people fit together like two peas in a pod, a stamp to an envelope and birds to a feather. Find which one you are.

What type of person do you want in your life when it comes to dating? Some prefer the business type of person in which they are always serious, business minded, elegant and somewhat stiff. Not all business types are stiff. They all know how to have their fun. Their fun may consist of a well expensive paid vacation because they can afford it. Other business type people are those who worked hard to get to where they desire to be but never forget where they came from, but enjoys the finer things in life because they might have had the finer things when growing up.

Or do you prefer the “Around the way” person? The one who dresses in the coolest fashion or has knowledge of a little street slang. The good looking ones that really likes to have fun no matter what others think about you when you are going someplace. They smile with sense of confidence as if they know they either have someone good on their arm, and getting ahead in life. The confidence of one can generate through someone else. If someone doesn’t tell you how good you look then guaranteed someone else will.

This person may have a way of talking that catches your attention or maybe the casual way he or she walks. An “around the way” person can break hearts or act tender and surrender to others advances without breaking their stride, and know exactly what to say or do. When they are in a situation where the person they are with knows how to react to certain situations and remain dignified, but letting the person know what is on their minds. These people are very independent. Around the way people do not let other people hinder them in getting what they want in life, especially dating.

They like to look good and want the ones on their arm to look just as good. The hair has to be right, clothes neatly pressed, and in the summertime, it’s all about the fun of things. In their neighborhood they are considered jewels and the opposite sex will definitely do their best to try and talk to them. Their favorite place to hang out will be the movies (if you are female) and hanging out with your girls. And for the men it’s usually dealing in some type of sport while everyone in business suits are try to “push up” on you. They all loved to be whined and dined. If not a love connection, you’ll have a friend.

It is true what they say about nice guys finishing last. These nice guys are usually the ones who are not eye candy but have a decent heart. Same for a few women. How do they compensate for not being able to attract the person whom they are interested in? They have lives so if they work, their work is more important than trying to find a date. If they are wanting to date, there are the personals ads that they can look into or learn to wait and be content with themselves.

First, instead of dreading to be alone, find something that completes you. No man or woman can complete you until you complete yourself. Do things that you have always dreamed of doing and make it a goal to do it. You will find yourself being more fulfilled in your days when you accomplish what you set out to do. What is it that you have always wanted to do? As mentioned in earlier articles, do your research. Find out what it takes to get what you desire.

If your heart is set on finding that special someone, then find a spa in which you can afford, get pampered, purchase an outfit and have a date with yourself because once you have been pampered for that day, you’ll be feeling too good to share that experience with anybody else. Take a class. This will get you started in the right direction in what your goals are. You may even meet someone inn your class. Going to the grocery store in the middle of the night has become so cliché. Fix the hair, brighten that smile and hold your beautiful head up. As also mentioned, you are as beautiful as anyone else walking around. You have a right to acquire happiness.

You waste time moping around feeling sorry for yourself when there is a whole world for you to explore and enjoy. Dating is a part of it. If no one can see your worth then they are not worth your time because you are more precious than jewels and will become the apple of someone’s eye eventually. It is all about timing. Time for the single ones who haven’t found the right one for them to come out of the circus tent and live the life you are expected to live.